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"I am not afraid".
"You are not afraid of suffering?"
"Yes, I am afraid of suffering. But I am not afraid of ghosts. And I think people suffer too easily", she added.
"I don't believe you do".
"I don't think that's a fault. It is not absolutely necessary to suffer; we were not made for that".
"You were not, certainly".
"I am not speaking of myself".
"No, it isn't a fault. It's a merit to be strong".
"Only, if you don't suffer, they call you hard".
Henry James, "The Portrait Of A Lady"